Re: Time to Grow Up.

I was reading a blog called Living in Egypt, The writer of the blog is a Canadian Lady living in Egypt blogging about her life, opinions and experiences in the Egyptian community. I found an interesting post called Time to Grow Up, it was so... I do not know what to say about the post but the least I can say is it was disturbing, I found that the lady who is about 59 years old has just stopped worrying about what will she be when she grows up, she stopped worrying about the future and her targets and goals in life. And this is a total problem for me as I am only 24 and I can't stop thinking about the future.

I need to find my path before it is too late to take any actions, I need to claim this time where I am in full strength and bright mind and gather the most possible experiences of life that when I grow old I can make huge decisions without much effort because I won't have such effort (everybody grows old, weak and more fragile)

But the scary idea is to give life the driving wheel of your life, to be like a captain-less ship in the huge ocean of life and accept any shore life throws you on. And I do not want that fate, I want to make my own fate to carve my own steps to the place I want, but where do I want to go? 

A friend once told me that this problem is the problem of all young people who are not following their parents lead, for example: one friend graduated as an engineer but he knows and totally accepting that this graduation was only a prestige to just be an engineer because his fate will lie in his fathers shop, another one who graduated as a doctor and he is already having a job in his father's hospital. It is the problem of people who do not have a plan to inherit, who do not have a pre-paved path of life to follow

And I guess that Mrs. Maryanne agrees with me that she did not have a paved path to follow it was life and fate that got her to this point of life and I also think that she is out of strength to make any action to even think of changing anything right now. She has entered the phase where people around her will benefit from her wisdom accumulated through all those years of hard work. She is entering the stage where she is getting ready for the upcoming responsibilities. and I guess that she will soon start worrying about other people.

Now, The Question is What shall I do?, How shall I know what to do?, and How can I gain command of my own life?

I know for sure that there is nothing easy even making a paper plane (If you do not remember the time you took to make your first plane try making this one) but there must be a way to find my own path, and I am determined on finding it.

Animals at rest.

I am not used to animals being everywhere around me, but I found there is a cat that is always waiting, sleeping, playing infront of an appartment in the second floor in the building where I am living

Few steps away from the building there is a Masjed where last night I saw about 8 Dogs sleeping in its garden

Across the street there is an old green car with another dog sleeping on it and about 200 meters there was somthing like 3 dogs patrolling the area but the camera did not capture a good postable images of these dogs

I guess that the door step is the safest place for the cat to stay, espcially that it is too cute to be disturbed (unless you live in that appartment, which is totally a different story)

The only unpleasant incedentwhen I was getting out of the car and a dog suddenly ran frightened, of course I do not need to tell you what happened to me

I guess someone (except me) should do something about these animals -- I saw a mouse once too -- but until that someone takes an action I will be long gone from that place and found a better one

In another area I found this:

The guy eating in the image is a friend of mine that is why I pixlated his face

These cats are near a liver stand and those who are not from Egypt the liver stand is the alternative for hot-dog stands in the U.S.  The workers in that stand keep the place ccleen and provide the cats with food. This place is a bus stop and it is an extremely active area with lots of people and cars moving 24/7 but there is always kindness and sweetness in the heart of chaos.

Ethics, Experience, Education, Books and Money

Dear Readers,
A long while ago a wise man told me that in my age I should be looking for experience and afterwards the money will come without any efforts exerted by me. But I found it is not as easy as it sounds, and I do not think that anybody that tried doing the same found that it is easy. you work for the money, right, how can you concentrate on something which is the sole purpose of getting out of the house. and I thought Experience comes along the way, and I also thought that it means that I do not have to go haunting for jobs with better payments but I never thought that I would be concentrating about how the job is done more than how to do the job in order to get paid.

Now this is what I want to concentrate on. How the job is being done correctly and effictivly so I can achieve the best results from the least possible effort. and as Ben Lawrey said to leverage my time and effort to I produce massive results from the least amounts of effort and time.

A while after the advice I looked at knowledge and I decided that I should read as much as I can so that I can fill the gap between me and my age from one side and the other side the experince of people who are already older than me. So I read a little bit about maketing and a smaller bit about NLP and Negotiations and a little bit of a lot of things else, but I found myself standing in a dead-end road, I can not continue because I can not apply what I am reading, although it all seems applyable. Then, after a while of frusturation, I came to a decision; I will wait for a year (I announced 6 months period to the puplic, ie:Mr. EKs) and then I will re-evaluate the situation, wether I can apply anything or still can not. But then another Idea hit me, That I will continue reading in order to use the Information from the books in a single situation that may or may not come in my whole life and I must not be willing to apply everything immediatly. And that was the best solution I can find. Until now, I guess.

May be I can look for NLP courses about specifying life targets and goals, communication, speed reading,... etc. Skills that will help me face life without giving up my core concepts of ethics and behaviour because this is a real problem that I would like to overcome. everybody seems to be saying that life is not what you are dealing with, you need to be cunning, you have to be shouting, people must feer you (I am 168cm and 53KG so nobody will feer me) and lots of other things that are simply against the way I want life to be, and I believe that I can change life or at least people who are close to me, people who are in direct contact with me. I will change them to be better to have a lot of good qualities that people these days do not even consider that they ever existed like keeping your time and promises and you would have only one word that people would take for granted

maybe they are right that this time and place are not the correct ones to do extra correct things but at least I will change myself in order to change the world afterwards and luckily I DO have an experiece to enforce this Idea in me. My friends and I used to get pizza and go to a garden to eat it a long with some drinks and stuff what used to happen is after eating everything is left on the ground. First I starting taking out the pizza box and the cola can with me to the nearest basket, even if it was not near, and after a while I starting taking their boxes too so out of shame they would take the boxes to the basket and now it seems like a normal action to take the boxes and whatever we brought to us and it seems very abnormal to leave anything on the ground.

What made me very happy is one of my friends told me that even when he goes out with his friends (not common friends) he tells them not to leave anything on the ground so it seems like a tree and you just need to start to be a role model for your friends and most importantly once you start there is no turning back they will watch evey movement, every paper that you will hold they will be watching to see where are you going to throw it

back to the main topic, suprisingly I found my brother taking the same concept, getting to work early is one of the wrong things that our parents tought us, it is something that is not suitable for this era. I just want to know who is right doing everything correctly or just doing whatever you do for whatever purpose as long as everything seems to be fine.

I am sure that I am on the right path but this path seems to be empty from anyone but me, or maybe it is too wide, too long, too rough, too hard to see anybody with me on this path, but until we meet I shall continue all the way until I am convinced that I am wrong, and belive me this is not an easy thing to do.

The End